Techniques To Let Go Off The Past

Almost each one of us carries a heavy or subtle burden of negative events and happenings that have taken place in our life sometime in the past, either an immediate past or a far-off one; which reduce our present contentment levels immensely. The negative past could be of any form – you experienced the loss of a close loved one due to a break-up or sudden death; you went through a serious physical illness or a very lean phase of financial loss, you were abused on a mental or physical level; you were not treated properly by a colleague at office and undue advantage was taken of you; you performed an inappropriate action and you repent up till now, even after many years have passed, and many such similar and different types of incidents.

There are three different types of processes for removing negative past memories from our consciousness:

Modifying - A negative past event is modified into a positive, beneficial form and then stored in the consciousness.

Forgetting - Memories of a negative past event are forgotten and do not exist either in our conversations or in our conscious mind or thoughts, but traces of those memories exist in the sub-conscious mind.

Erasing - No traces of the negative past exist in the consciousness and memories of it are completely removed from the sub-conscious also.

We need to take the help of all the different aspects or techniques of spirituality and not depend on only one or two for these removal processes. In the next two days’ messages, we will explain all these different techniques of spirituality, which if incorporated in our life, help us experience lightness and emotional freedom from the past. All of them have their own unique importance.


[Source: Brahma Kumaris]

Being Divine [DRAFT]

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• Our every thought influences how we feel. Thoughts come into words and actions, it becomes our experience and this records an impression or sanskar on the soul. The sanskars become our vibrations.
• What we speak is first created as thoughts. The thoughts could have been created earlier and stored. When we use the phrase 'slip of the tongue' or 'we didn't mean it', it only means we felt it but had decided not to speak it.
• When in response to a situation or behavior, we create hurt and hold on to that hurt, then the thoughts of hurt and blame will get stored in the memory. These thoughts will replay many times and cause pain and may also come into words. Let us counsel our mind, understand the person and then store the scene with acceptance.
• Hurt, resentment, rejection or any painful emotion created and held on the mind, will become a part of our personality. The pain becomes a part of our energy field and starts coming into other healthy relationships.

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• Like when we perform in a drama, our focus is on our performance and our script, not dependent on the performance of our co-actors. Even if the other actor does not perform right or forgets their lines, we will keep performing well and even help them to come back on track.
• We should keep attention on our performance in every scene of life. The criteria that we have crossed the scene well are that we are at ease, the mind is feeling nice, body is relaxed and co-actors in the scene are feeling nice.
• People respect us and feel nice with us, not because of what we have acquired in our life, but because of what we radiate to them. If we are humble and radiate love, kindness and compassion, it will make us and people around us feel nice.
• Like we take care when we get a photograph clicked, we need to take care of every thought, word and action getting recorded on the soul. There is no retake in this recording and it is an eternal recording, which will always remain on the soul and go with us in the next birth.

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• The way we respond to a scene creates a permanent recording on the soul. Once a recording is created, the chances of responding the same way in another scene increases and gradually that becomes our sanskar.
• The soul is the actor performing every scene on the stage of this world drama. The personality of the actor will reflect in every role and every scene. Let us create the consciousness - 'I am a divine being', and reflect divinity in our every scene today.
• When we are role consciousness we perform on the basis of our position, relation and age and expect the same from others. When we are conscious of the quality of the actor then irrespective of the role, we will radiate our quality in every scene.
• Ego is when we make something that we have acquired - our identity; it could be our qualification, our position, our skill, our relation or religion and caste. When we make any of these our identity we enact our scenes based on this identity and expect others to be with us on the same basis.

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• Our every THOUGHT is followed by a FEELING. Feelings over a period of time develop our ATTITUDE. Attitude comes out into ACTION. Any action done repeatedly becomes a HABIT. All our habits put together is our PERSONALITY. Our PERSONALITY creates our DESTINY.
• If we try to bring a change in our habits, personality or destiny on an outer level, then there are chances that we revert to our old self. Change needs to be created in the consciousness, thoughts, and attitude and then brought into habit.
• The quality of thoughts is based on three input factors - information, past experiences and belief system. Everything we read and hear through media and people influences the quality of our thoughts. Let us avoid reading and watching negative news early morning.
• Past experiences if stored unresolved in the memory will push us into creating the same quality thoughts always. We will think and behave with people based on unpleasant past experiences with them, which will create a negative present and future.

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• When the mind is hurt and is questioning others' behaviors, we cannot forcefully suppress the thoughts or silence the mind. The mind needs answers. Give the mind the answer that it is the other person's sanskar and our past karmic account, the mind will slowly accept and become silent.
• Belief system, information, and past experience are the raw materials which create our thoughts and the final product is our personality. Since two people have different raw material, their sanskars or personality will be different. This understanding helps us to accept people.
•  We feel people are behaving with US in a particular way, we feel it is something about us which makes them behave that way. People are only radiating THEIR final product to us. When we change our belief systems our behavior changes even though others remain the same.
• We acquire position, relations, property, and skills in this life time and we sometimes make them our identity and get attached to the identity we create. Ego is attachment to a wrong image of myself.

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• Ego is attachment to a wrong image of myself. Ego does not mean only feeling superior to others, ego is also when we feel inferior. Any image which is not our true identity or the true identity of others is ego.
• Our roles and positions in society are different. For eg. a chairman and a driver. We called the roles higher and lower, we then got attached to our roles and made them our identity. Higher and lower roles then became superior and inferior people, this created ego.
• External courtesies and protocol need to be according to roles and positions, which is regard for the role. Respect should not change according to the role. Respect is for the soul which should be same for everyone.
• When we say 'I', we visualize what we see in the mirror. The body is the first thing we acquire and make it our identity. But for every part of the body we call it 'my'. Our body, relationships, position, religion, nationality everything for which we said 'I', truth is it is 'MY'.

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• This body is 'mine' but we are living with the consciousness that this body is 'I'. We like beauty and perfection which is our true nature, so we started looking for beauty and perfection in the body. This sometimes caused 'I' the soul to feel inferior, imperfect, rejected, and 'I' the soul shifted from true beauty and perfection.
•  When the body gets diseased, we believe that 'I have this disease'. 'I' the soul do not have the illness and neither does 'I' the soul ever die, the body dies. 'I' the soul am eternal and imperishable. Believing that we are this body made us live in the fear of death.
• The body is our instrument which we use. We see through the eyes, speak through the mouth, eyes and mouth are the instrument through which 'I' the soul choose what to do.
• We get attached to everything we acquire. Where there is attachment there will be fear of losing. Even though we know that eventually we will lose all that we have including our body, we spend our life holding on to it with stress, hoping we never lose our body, family, position or property.

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• We need to acquire all our goals and take care of the acquired like a trustee, but not make the acquired our identity. When we forget that 'I' am the soul, we start looking for perfection, happiness, power, love which are the qualities of the soul in all that we have acquired.
• When we believe that we are this body and we want happiness, we try to give happiness to the body. For happiness we go for holidays; buy gadgets, cars and clothes. We try to seek happiness in what we see, listen, smell, eat and touch.
• When we believe that we are the role, we think happiness is in what we achieve; power is when people are in our control. To achieve this external perfection and power, we create stress, aggression, jealousy, insecurity, corruption and the soul moves away from happiness and power.
• I the soul am bliss, love, peace, power and purity. While taking care of our body, relations, roles and property, we need to use these qualities in our every thought, word and action for the soul to experience peace, love and happiness.

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• When we connect to people as a role to role or position to position connection, we radiate vibrations of ego. This creates thoughts of superiority or inferiority, and radiates impure vibrations to the body and to the relationship, and a permanent negative recording is created on the soul.
• When we connect to people on the level of soul consciousness we radiate pure vibrations, which keep the mind peaceful, body healthy, create diving relationships and earn blessings. Every recording on the soul in this state will be a clean recording and this recording is eternal.
• Our consciousness or belief system is the source of our thoughts. We create 75 to 80,000 thoughts in a day. It is difficult to check and change the quality of every thought. If our consciousness is 'I am a soul', then automatically only pure thoughts will get created.
• When we are in the presence of a soul conscious person like a saint or a child, their vibrations bring us in our soul conscious stage and we feel pure and peaceful. If we are in a soul conscious stage we will enable others to emerge the divinity within themselves.

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~~ Om Shanthi ~~

Source: Brahma Kumaris

E-mail: awakening@bkmail.org

Being Love

• If we criticize or hate our self, it blocks our energy of love. To radiate love to all, we need love to flow through us, and for that we need to first love our self.
• People can protect themselves from our vibrations, but we have to experience it constantly. Our vibrations are the fragrance with which we live.
• People's thoughts, words and actions towards us are like a gift we receive. What we do with it, is completely our choice. People can criticize us, we can use that criticism either to dis-empower our self or to motivate our self.
• Complaining depletes our energy because we are thinking about that which is not in our control. Complaining means focusing on the problem and concern is focusing on the solution.

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• Every time we blame people for our reaction, we are re-affirming that we are weaker than the other person.
• When we lose control over our stable state of mind, we shift from our original quality of peace.
• Our original qualities of peace, love and happiness, are not being used repeatedly in action, and hence we forget they are our own sanskars. We then start looking for peace in silent places, happiness in objects and achievements and love from people.
• In every scene of life, we need to make a conscious choice of responding through our original sanskars, instead of the habitual negative sanskars.

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• Our thoughts and feelings create our energy field. This energy field has an effect on our body, on people, on nature and on matter. Our consciousness vibrates into the universe.
• If our energy field is pure and powerful, everyone will get touched with our pure vibrations. This will help them to emerge their own purity and power. This is the true meaning of blessing people.
• Conflict in one relationship depletes our power and this affects our other relationships.
• In a conflict there is an exchange of negative energy between them and us. Let us not look at what they are sending us, focus on sending them pure energy of good wishes. This will heal us and then heal them.

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• When a soul is in the womb of the mother, it is detached from the body and family. In this detached state the soul consumes the vibrations of the parents.
• The soul entering the womb of the mother has just experienced death and is carrying sanskars of pain of the last birth. The parent's responsibility is to emotionally heal the soul by creating only pure vibrations.
• The mother should not take any negative information through TV news, violent or horror movies or loud music. The parents should meditate together to create healthy vibrations for the child.
• If parents create thoughts of anxiety about their capacity to bring up a child or about gender preference, they send vibrations of rejection to the child, and the child feels unwanted.

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• If we think what we have always thought and do what we have always done, then we will get what we have always got.
• To change our sanskars we need knowledge and power. Only listening and reading good words is not enough to create a change.
• The soul is mind, intellect and sanskars. Mind creates the thoughts, intellect takes a decision, but only after it repeatedly comes into action, it will become a sanskar.
• We were doing things so that we could experience peace, happiness and all the qualities of the being. We thought DOING will make us experience the BEING. Truth is we will experience the being only when we express it in the doing.
• When we give energy to others, we are the first one to experience it. We get while we give to others.

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• A baby does not see people through their labels of relationship, profession or status. A baby is not judgmental or critical about people. Hence a baby naturally radiates love since it has a soul to soul connection.
• Love flows naturally through us if we remove the blocks created by ego labels, criticism, blame, control comparison and competition. We are shifting from ego consciousness to soul consciousness.
• Love radiating from us, naturally emerges the original sanskar of love in every soul we interact with. We like going to places and meeting people who have pure vibrations because that emerges OUR own sanskar of purity.
• We are aware of the love, respect and care which we expect from others, we are aware of what we are getting and what we are not getting. Now we need to be aware of the love and care we are giving to others.

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Being Bliss

• 10% of conflict is due to difference in opinion and 90% is due to wrong tone of voice. Raise your words, not your voice.
•  The first step to transformation is not to justify your negative emotion, but to take personal responsibility of having created it.
•  When we justify our emotion, we blame others for it. We then expect them to change and do not find the need to change our self.
•  To change any habit we need to answer three questions. WHY should I change? HOW do I change? and most important Do I WANT to change? Unless the WANT to change is there, the HOW to change will not get implemented.

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•  Law of Attraction does not mean YOU GET WHAT YOU WANT, it actually means YOU GET WHAT YOU ARE. Our thoughts and words are what we are, these vibrate to the universe and we get them back. 
•  WHAT YOU ARE is a soul carrying - sanskars and karmic accounts. So what we are going to get will be according to our sanskars and karmic accounts. Thoughts create destiny, is always true for the soul, whether in this costume or an earlier one. Costumes msy change but the thoughts created then will still create our destiny.

•  Destiny is created according to our qualities and skills of the present and also karmic accounts of the past. Even if we are not getting the desired result, do not let any of the present qualities and karmas decline. If we create jealousy, insecurity, anxiety, then we are creating a negative present.

•  Accept the past carry forward and keep yourself strong and motivated in the present. If the present remains powerful and positive we will gradually settle the past, and create beautiful karmas which will influence our present and our future.

 To be continued...

 Source: Being Bliss

Healer Within

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• Our every thought, word and action is OUR creation. Situations come to us from 

  outside, but our responses are completely OUR choice.

• People may cheat, betray, trouble me, but the emotions I create are my responsibility. 

  I CREATE my emotional wounds, and I NEED to heal myself.

• If I say I cannot change my habits, then I am giving myself a negative affirmation and 

  writing a destiny of pain.

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• Past incidents are triggers which we use to create thoughts NOW. We have a choice 

  how much pain we create and for how long.

• Never be harsh or critical with yourself or compare with others. 

  Acceptance and love is the first step to healing.

• Do not leave emotional wounds to be healed with time. We become weaker, and 

  vulnerable to more wounds. Resolve the issue and heal the wound.

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• People see us through the filter of their sanskars. It's like the color of glasses 

  they are wearing, they can see us ONLY in that color. This may not be the truth.

• If we know our qualities and our weaknesses, then we are not dependent on others to 

  know about our self.

• We should know where we WERE, where we ARE and where we WANT to go on our 

  journey of transformation. No comparison with others.

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• Like others see us through the filter of their sanskars, we also see our self through the labels we put on our self and through our acquired sanskars.
• Our name, degree  profession, position, are labels that we put on our identity. We use these labels to answer the question 'Who am I?'

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• Ego is attachment to a wrong image of myself. MY body, MY name, MY family, MY degree, everything that was MINE, we called it I, and we forgot the real I.
• We create an image of who we are and then get attached to that image. When someone says something about the image, we get hurt.
• I the being is like a diamond, in a velvet box, my body. The beautiful clothes I wear are the wrapping paper, and the attractive ribbons and labels are all that I have acquired. Let me not forget the diamond.

Going Beyond

 ~~ Om Shanthi ~~

• Every time we say our feelings are because of situations or people, we are blaming them for our state of mind.
• Discipline people and get work done but without fluctuating your state of mind, which means work needs to be done but our happiness is not dependent on it.
• Each one of us is responsible for our feelings. People are not responsible for how we feel and we are not responsible for how others feel.
• We can take care of our thoughts and actions, but finally others will create their own feelings and we should not feel guilty if others are creating pain.
• Nothing and on one is in our control, other people's mind may not do what we want, we only have control on our own mind.

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• Irrespective of things happening outside, we consciously choose our feelings inside. We are shifting from blaming to personal responsibility.
• Become aware of typical situations or personality traits in people like dishonesty, laziness, being late etc. which cause irritation, anger or hurt. Now consciously choose to remain stable in response to people's behaviors.
•  Even if something has happened in the past, we cannot blame the past for our feelings today. Our feelings today are entirely our choice and our responsibility.
• Everything outside is a stimulus - past experiences, present situations, planetary movements. Irrespective of the stimulus, the response is our creation.
• I the soul am already peace, love, contentment. Nothing outside needs to be perfect for us to experience our own qualities, we already have them.

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• Trust should be the first thing to come in a relationship and the last thing to go and actually should never ever finish.
• When we say we cannot trust someone again, we actually fear the hurt we will create if they do something which we did not expect. We do not fear trusting them, we fear our getting hurt.
• They have done something which is not right for us, but the hurt we create is totally our responsibility and we have a choice how much and for how long to remain hurt.
• Every time we create hurt we are getting weaker and then we create hurt even in simpler situations, because getting hurt is becoming our sanskar, and then trusting people becomes difficult.
• When we start healing our selves, we do not fear getting hurt, and then we are able to trust people because even if they do things differently, we will be able to take care of ourselves.

When we doubt people around us in society or at the work place then doubt becomes our sanskar, and then it becomes difficult to trust family and friends.

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Desires

• Desires are scenes which we create on the screen of our mind. When the scene in reality is different from the one on the mind, the mind perceives it as a loss, and we create pain.
• Unfulfilled desires create pain. Let's reduce our desires, and give everything the liberty to happen the first time in reality, as it is meant to be.
• When talking to family and friends about our emotions, focus should be on healing the emotion not discussing the problem and the emotion.
• Anything done repeatedly becomes a habit. It is our creation and we can change by creating a new habit. Focus on creating the new habit rather than finishing the old one.
• Morning meditation silences the conscious mind and implants the seeds of new habits in the subconscious mind.

Going Beyond Mood Swing

• People don't insult us, they only given their opinion. We take their words and make them our identity and then use that identity to create hurt.
• Mood created in one situation, if not corrected, get recorded in our subconscious. Any trigger will bring the pattern from the subconscious to the conscious and very soon this becomes our prevailing mood.
• Do not make the emotion your identity, like I am sad, I am aggressive. It is only a creation, it will pass. If we identify with it, we expect it to come and accept it when it comes.
• Face the emotion. Do not try to escape it by distracting your mind with movies, alcohol, working, holidays or talking to people.
• Time cannot heal us. We choose how much time we take to heal ourselves. Face the emotion and find the tool of knowledge to heal it, do not leave it to time.

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• Success inside i.e. stability, comfort, happiness inside will have an influence on getting success outside.
• When two people are in conflict inside, they cannot create harmony in the relationship. Harmony inside, i.e comfort, stability inside flows into a relationship and creates harmony.
• We always thought if the relationship is beautiful, if we get along well, they we will be very happy. The truth is if we are happy then the relationship will be beautiful.
• Knowledge is not to be used only for reading, listening and feeling nice, but to be experimented and implemented in daily living.
• Early morning the absorption capacity of the mind is high, fill it with pure powerful information i.e. spiritual knowledge and keep the newspaper for later in the day.

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• When we take knowledge shared by others and implement it, we silence our noisy mind, then our own innate wisdom will emerge and this will change our deep belief systems.
• Study knowledge in the morning and then attention in the day on its application in situations, this is Dharna, inculcation of values. We shift from reactive behaviors to consciously responding from our original qualities of peace, love, and respect.
•  When we respond with stability in smaller situations we conserve energy. When there is a crisis we have the energy to face it with calm and stability.
• The knowledge we learn, we share it with others, this is Seva. When we share we benefit first because we churn the knowledge while sharing. Sharing can also be radiating vibrations of purity.

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• To make transformation natural and easy begin the day with meditation. Meditate at the same time daily and in a dedicated place.
• Meditation silences the mind. Then study of knowledge implants seeds of new way of thinking and behaving deep into the subconscious.
• A minute of reflection after every hour to check the quality of thoughts and change consciously towards the right way of thinking.
•  At night review the day. Any action which was not right, we reflect on it and see how we could have responded in a different manner and visualize ourselves doing it a different way.

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• We need to check our internal comfort zones of habits and behaviors created due to past experiences or affirmations made by people around us. We may be comfortable being that way, but it is damaging if it is depleting our energy.
• Self talk that we create has a deep impact on our sanskars and behaviors. Like we talk positive loving words to others to help them to change, we need to be positive and loving to ourselves.
• Other people's opinion about us should not stop us from breaking our comfort zones. Aim is to have harmony inside. Easiest way to break a comfort zone is to start doing the opposite, even if it appears to be difficult.
• Each of us is a powerful soul and all of us have the same amount of will power, we choose how much to use. The more we use it, the more we will experience it.

Being Master and Child

• Subtle way of controlling people is when we change our behavior, like getting angry, hurt, sulking, not talking to them, till they do what we want them to do.
• When we ask people to do things in a particular way and they do it our way, we feel we control them and they feel they are being controlled, both are not true and it makes both weak.
• The one who feels they can control will always have the fear of what if they lose control. Their happiness will always be dependent on the other person doing things their way.
• The one who is listening to others needs to be aware that they are choosing to obey for certain reasons. Important is they are making the choice, they are not being controlled.
• A powerful being is not the one who is able to control others, but the one who is able to control themselves.

Controlling to Influencing

• When people don’t do things according to what we want, we start being judgmental and critical. This is creating resistance towards them. At that moment we don’t love them, we reject them.
• Resistance is not because of what the other person has done. Resistance is because of how we start thinking in response to what they have done.
• Our judgmental thoughts will travel to them and they start creating similar thoughts, and the process of conflict has begun.
•  Each one is different, no one is right or wrong, we are just different. Acceptance means we accept the difference.
• Acceptance means we are comfortable with their present sanskar and way of working and ready to work on it from the next moment i.e. future. Rejection is focused on the past, the mistake they made.

 

Going Beyond Criticizing

• Criticism depletes the energy of the one being criticized and also of the one criticizing. The criticizer creates emotions of rejection, anger, and fear of what if they don't listen to me.
• Criticism creates hurt in the one who is being corrected. When someone is hurt they can follow our instruction but they are not feeling nice and hence we can't say - it was for their good.
• Critique is giving feedback for the deed and criticism is thinking negatively for the doer. Separate the action from the person and given suggestion only for what they have done.
• Appreciate the person's qualities and the other tasks that they do, build their self confidence and then give them feedback on the task which has gone wrong.
• When we are hurt or angry the feedback goes with the negative vibration and therefore not comfortable for the other. When we are stable and give the same feedback, it is only a feedback.

Going Beyond Competition

• Life is not a competition. Each one is on their own journey, live according to your choices, capacity, values, and principles.
• The output of our actions is in proportion to our inputs. Inputs could be circumstances, health, resources, and value systems. Our output is not dependent on the output of others.
• Past Karma is a very important input factor. Even if all the present input factors of two people are the same, their past Karma are different, therefore output will be different and therefore no competition.
• If we compromise on our input factor - values or interfere with the inputs of others, we are creating deep Karma and this will influence our output today and in the future.

Going Beyond Jealousy

• Negative thoughts like jealousy, hatred, anger, criticism are toxic and large in number. They make us feel heavy.
• When someone is jealous of us, we need to empathize with them, they are insecure and they feel they have not got what they deserve to be happy.
• The one who is jealous is not feeling nice and they may not speak nicely about us, but we do not need to justify ourselves by talking badly about them.
• Continue to create beautiful clean thoughts of understanding and love for the person who is jealous of us, these pure thoughts will help them to heal themselves.

Going Beyond with Love and Law

• Very often our behavior is only a reflection of the way others have behaved with us, and in the process our own personality is lost.
• Irrespective of environment and people, let us retain our original qualities, so that we will be comfortable and we will spread the fragrance around.
• Values are our strength, even if no one around us is using it and even if others think they don't work, we should NOT give up.
• With values we need HUMILITY to accept others around who may not use the same values, and power to face the challenges that might come because of living by our values.
• Let's choose one value and then use it with everyone, everywhere, and every time.

Going Beyond Anger with Assertiveness

• Our negative emotions have an impact on the mind, body, and relationships. Physical disease is easier to heal, but emotional hurt and relationship conflict is a deeper impact.
• Sanskars of this birth are easier to change, sanskars being carried for many births need more attention.
•  Assertiveness is stability inside and focus on the act, not on the person who has made the mistake.
• Assertiveness retains the respect for the person and corrects the task. Anger is an attack on the person, and also brings up the past.
• A silent mind silences other noisy minds. If parents and teachers have silent minds, they will help children to concentrate.
• Face the emotion, sit with yourself and address the thought and gradually change the thought; do not try to escape it by distracting the mind.

Going Beyond by Erasing Negative - CTRL+ALT+DEL Mind Therapy

• In any situation, control your state of mind, then look for an alternate way of thinking and delete the emotional baggage held against people.
• If we hate someone, when we leave the body we carry the imprint of hatred, and when the two souls meet again they experience hatred.
• Every time we carry forward the unpleasantness, the magnitude and complexity increases. To change the quality of the interaction right now is only one thought away.
• If someone has cheated or betrayed us, we have an option to either create hatred and carry it forward. Other option is to create forgiveness and change the quality of interaction.
• Whatever they are doing to us is a return of our past karma, they are not wrong. The response we choose now will create our present and decide our future. Let me make the choice that is good for me.

Going Beyond - Religious Fear of God and blind faith

• Our thoughts, words, and actions are the energy we send to people, which is our karma. Situations and people's behaviors are the energy on the return, which is our destiny.
• If God wrote our destiny, it would be a perfect destiny. Our destiny is created by our karmas, our free will, not by the will of God.
• God can never get angry with us. God can never curse us. God will only bless us, forgive us and give us the strength to correct our mistakes.
•  God gives the knowledge of right and wrong karmas, the strength to create good karma and the power to face the consequences of our past karma.
• When we are performing rituals they need to be done with the intention of purity and love for God. Not an intention of fear of God or to appease God so that life is smooth for us.

~~ Om Shanthi ~~

Source: Brahma Kumaris

E-mail: awakening@bkmail.org

Soul Connection

~~ Om Shanthi ~~

I

• Relationship is an interaction of one person with other person.
• Issues in relationships exist inspite of right doing and speaking with each other. This is because of lack of righ thinking towards the other person.

II

• Good relationships start with right thoughts towards the other person.
• Whatever we do for the person in relation, it is not for that person's happiness but it is for ourselves.
• Every action towards a person in relation should precede with self consolation regarding the action. If the result of the consolation is that this action will be for my happiness and I am doing this action with happiness - then only proceed with the action for the other person else don't.
• Every decision and action in relationships depends on an individula's capacity. So self consolation is the best guide. Hence, we need to increase our inner capactiy to cope with the situation.

III

• Avoid "Perfume of negativity" in relationships by good thoughts.
• Thoughts have to be good irrespective of while with a person or not.
• Before starting a good relationship with others, we need to have a good relationship with ourselves.
• Stop blaming others for your current state. Take the responsibility for your current state. It is our thoughts which are responsible for our state.
• It is we who create our thoughts. External world is just a stimuli. We have the power to choose and create our thoughts.

IV

• My mind the little baby I am parenting. Its mine and I have the power to nurture it the way I want. 
• There are lot of things that  have happened in the past for which I have been criticizing myself. But today I stop and I change the way I talk to myself.
• Look at my thought and gently change it to a powerful affirmation. The past is not in my control but I love myself and I can do this. I have the power. It doesn't matter what the world says. I have the power and I am using this to nurture my self. 

V

• The one relationship, which I have ignored and neglected for a very long time. Let me start looking at myself. I the being, creator of every thought and feeling. I now realise that I have the power to change and channelise my thoughts in the direction I choose. There are challenges, there is work to be done, there are situations waiting for me today and in the future. But whenever I think any of them, let me take care that my every thought is clean, positive, and powerful. However big the challenge may be, the outcome I create in the screen of mind is my choice. I am carefully teaching my mind to create a calm and positive response. The only energy that's in my control is me myself. Irrespective of whatever is happening around me, let me remind myself - I can only control myself and focus my attention on that which is in my control.

VI

• Let us look at one name, which I have been holding on the screen of my mind. My thought - they hurt me, they were wrong, they were unfair, and they are the cause of my pain. I now understand, they had a reason for what they did. I am the creator of my hurt and pain. Today, I choose to create love instead. I am a loveful being. I am a pure being. My every thought in this internal factory is a pure loveful thought. That's the only product I create and I send those vibrations of love and purity to them. Look at the energy the vibrations travel to them. Conflicts dissolve, energy blockage healed, relationships restored.

VII

• First thing to work upon in building a good relationship with myself is to accept myself as I am. This is followed by approve and empower myself. This is beginning of good relationship with myself and outer world.
• Let me take this moment to get to know myself. Labels, positions, identities, belief systems - I drop each one of them. Roles and responsibilities, they are just layers I have acquired. As I drop these layers and I ask myself, who I am I? Not the profession, not the relationship, not the responsibility. They are only what I do. Who am I? I start to see myself. Master of this body, the energy that creates, experiences, and expresses - I the being, the conscient energy, the soul, master of this body. I am a pure, peaceful, powerful being. This is my true nature. This is my personality. This is who I am. Whatever may be the situation, whatever others meant to, I am a pure, peaceful, and powerful being. My every response, my every thought and feeling ignites from this consciousness of  purity,  peace, and love.

VIII

• Soul is a package of three things - Thoughts, Intellect, and Sanskars (मन, बुद्धि, और संस्कार).
• I the soul. Playing the role of the parent. My relationship with my child begins with me. My every thought sends a message, a vibration to my child. Let me take care that my every thought is of acceptance, love, and power. Whatever may be my concerns, whatever may be the pressures - I can't afford to crate a single wrong thought, because my every thought is being consumed by the child. The child grows up consuming my vibrations, my vibrations are the emotional diet of my child. Every thought only of love and understanding.

IX

• I the being. I am a bundle of thoughts and feelings. Every thought I create, is a vibration that is travelling to the child coming to our family. Our energy is the energy that welcomes the child to this family. Whatever situations I may have, whatever challenges I are there before me - today I will choose I will respond to them in a new way, in a healthy way, which is healthy for me and the child. A new way of thinking and a new way of responding. Because my vibrations influence the vibrations of the child. My every thought arises from the consciousness of purity and love. Theses vibrations travel to the soul and help the soul to heal itself, forget the past and heal the pain. We are nourishing the soul and also helping the soul to heal itself. 

X

• Let me detach myself from everything around me and gradually detach from my own emotions. Just being myself. Conscient energy, creating every thought and transmitting to people around me. My thoughts, my belief systems, my vibrations, are transmitting to the children around me. Let me be very careful, because my every belief system creates my destiny and so every belief system of my child will create his destiny. Its my responsibility to empower the soul with knowledge, love, and understanding. Not a single thought of fear, anger, and resentment. Let me be very careful irrespective of whatever the child does - my role is empowerment and which means stability, understanding, and power to change. My vibrations travel to my child.

XI

• Feeling of rejection created as a child, becomes the sanskar of the soul. Then even in other relationships whether at home, work or friends, the individual tends to feel unwanted.
• Our sanskars influence our thinking patterns. Every time we respond in the same manner, we are deepening the sanskar. Then the slightest stimlus creates the same response.
• Our sanskars are the filter through which we perceive every situation, and then create thoughts in response to our perception.
• Self counselling is to gradually change our thoughts, then our responses to situations will change and thereby changing our sankar. Thoughts, action, sanskar is a cycle.
• You can't stop the thoughts. But you can replace the thoughts with the good one. So whenever you come across disturbing/bad thoughts create opposite and good thoughts by meditating and consoling yourself.
• Today's media is trying to control your mind and thoughts. Thus effecting on your attitude and belief systems. Finally on your destiny.
• Let’s look at the screen of our mind. Scene after scene, actors are playing their part. Let me remind myself, it’s only a drama and every actor is choosing to create according to their role. As I watch them play their role, let me be aware that my thoughts and feelings are my creations. I am the audience, I am only an observer and as I observe let me take care that I am not consumed by those emotions. As I am watching what is happening outside, I also take a moment to watch what is happening inside me and carefully choose only those thoughts and feelings which create happiness and love. As I do this, it’s my first step to becoming a detached observer.

XII

• Let me look at my family and my field of relationships. With everyone I meet its an exchange of energy. My responsibility is to support, empower, and heal my family. There are challenges, they have pressures. But they are looking at me for love, compassion, and support. Before taking care of them, I need to take care of myself. Let me look at myself in this situation and remind myself, I am the facilitator, a guide - my role is to empower and support, its only a situation and my child will be able to face it and cross it, all that the child needs is strength. Its my role to give him this strength right now. I the powerful being, send vibrations of power and love to my child.

XIII

• Let me look at my journey of life. There are challenges, there are situations, where I have to decide in which direction to move. What is my compass on this journey? The compass which will show me the direction so that I never make a mistake. Its the compass of my core values and principles. In the biggest crisis I just have to stop and check what my compass is showing me and then use that compass of values peace, love, power, truth. I use my compass and as I use my compass I strengthen myself. As I strengthen myself I empower those around me. Just watching me they learn that the compass works and with the compass in hand there will be no doubts, no confusions, and no mistakes. I will be heading in life only towards there where I have decided - a journey of bliss, purity, and happiness.

XIV

• See my relationship. A relationship between I the soul and my child another soul. Its an energy exchange between a soul and a soul. My every thought and feeling is energy that travels from me to the soul and this energy decides the direction in which the soul grows. The self esteem develops, self  respect created, its my vibration which is choosing his direction. Irrespective of whatever they do, my prime responsibility is their development and empowerment and so at every step my response to every situation and even to things that I thought were wrong, its a response of understanding and compassion, that they have a reason for what they are doing. They are right in their own perspective and I respect them.

XV

• Love, support, acceptance - words that were used but rarely expressed and experienced. Let me today take these words into my field of relationships. People around me will make mistakes. They are on their journey. They have taken decisions and the consequences of the decision have to be faced. My role is to support, guide, and empower. I am on the journey with them. A journey of unconditional acceptance and love. My role is to be a facilitator and a guide as they walk their path. My responsibility to strengthen the soul on the journey. Not decide the path for them. I am there to share not to dictate. I am there to love and support unconditionally.

XVII

• I the soul, creator of every relationship. Let me look at that one relationship where I always felt rejected, where I deserved love, expected acceptance - but always seem to get pain instead when others around are getting what I wanted. Let me try and see the same relationship in a different perspective. Its a karmic account between two souls. A carry forward energy exchange of pain and today I the soul have the awareness that I have the power to change the quality of the energy being exchanged. I do not expect and I do not want, I am now the giver , the sustainer of this relationship. I am a love-ful being, I have the power to unconditionally love and accept them. Its my choice. Let me look at myself with that, however they behave, whatever they say, the energy I send to them is my choice and from today I choose love and acceptance not to be received but to be sent out instead. Let me see myself with them, being the way I am comfortable, doing what I think is right irrespective of how they behave. As I do that I send them vibrations of love and compassion. I heal myself and change the quality of energy being exchanged. The quality of the relationship is my choice and today I begin a new karmic account.

XVIII

• Dependency reduces WILL power.
• I am trying to reconnect to my own self.  I the conscient being, pure and blissful. This is my original nature. My contentment is not dependent on anything and anyone outside. This is who I am. As I see someone around me going through pain I understand my role is to support and empower. But for that I first take care of my own inner state of contentment, remaining stable, I am non-judgmental and I am continuing to give them unconditional respect. I understand that they are in pain and my role is to heal with the vibration of love.

XIX

• Let me bring that one relationship which I have been resisting. I wanted them to change. I wanted them to become the way I thought they should be. Let me bring that person on the screen of my mind. As a detached observer let me try and see them as they are. No labels, no positions, just the being to who I am connected because my relationship is with the soul. Try and see the soul another pure conscient energy that has come into my field of connections. Different way of thinking, different belief systems but originally just like me  - pure, love-ful, and peaceful being. Come into my field so that I can experience another beautiful connection with them. A relationship in which I have to only give - love and understanding. When I the soul connect to another soul its a flow of purity. No fear, no threat, no struggle for power - we are all  the same connected in harmony.

XXI

• Let me take a moment to detach from the environment, the world around me, people around me, detached from my emotions and thoughts and just be with myself. I, the pure conscient being - this is who I am and this is my quality. There are people around me, who are in pain. They are relationships who are very near and dear to me. They need support and understanding. My responsibility - step back from the scene, stand as an audience in the drama and look at the role of the every actor, unbiased, detached. As I stand in the audience, I can see the scene in its right perspective. As I remain connected to my core being, powerful and in control. I send vibrations of love and power to the soul in pain. My stability becomes their strength, my compassion becomes empowerment for them. This is my responsibility in my relationships.

XXII

• Look at all those relationships and situations where the mind is entangled, still looking for answers, unable to take decisions, differences of opinion, conflicting energy. Let me just step back from the scene, detached from my idea of right, ready to LET GO, ready to understand. As an audience seeing the role of every actor and their opinions and ideas. As I let go of my idea I am able to see theirs in another perspective. As I let go I give up my ego and attachment. I am able to understand them. No rejection and no resistance, understanding and compassion. Giving my suggestion but open to the ideas of everyone around me.

XXIV

• Watch the drams of our lives. I the actor on the stage with all my co-stars. My family, my colleagues, and friends, the co-actors in my personal drama. As we play this drama of life, I understand that each one of us has our own unique role, unique style of  acting, and a different script. I accept and appreciate that the beauty of this drama is each one of us is different. There are no rights and wrongs, just that we are different. As I watch everyone around me, playing their role, I understand that we are different from each other. I appreciate the way they play their role. At the same time focus attention and concentration only on my role, and my script. That is the only one thing which is in my control. That is the only one thing where I have a choice. I am the creator of my script. The director of my role. I the pure, powerful, peaceful being. This is the personality of me the actor. As I speak every word and enact every scene my personality flows into action.

XXV

• Removing of negative thoughts is realization.
• Bring on the screen of our mind one relationship where I have cheated, made a mistake, and they have created hurt. Let me bring that soul on the screen of my mind. I understand today that my thoughts, words, and actions were stimulus which cause them to create pain. I, a pure love-ful being. Love is my original property. Love is the energy which heals. Love is the energy which empowers. I the soul sending them this constant vibration of love and purity, healing them. Let me see my vibrations, changing the quality of energy between two of us. Blockages removed, relationships healed. I understand, realise, and transform.

XXVI

• Look at ourselves. Master of this body. Creator of thoughts, feelings, our wishes and vibrations. Everything I think and feel are my wishes which travel to people around me. It is a constant flow of energy going from me to them. I understand they may have cheated me, they may have betrayed me, they may have done things which I thought was wrong. But I still have the power to choose what I send them. It is a karmic account which I have with this soul and what is coming to me today  is only a return of what I sent before. Today I the powerful being choose to change the quality of this energy exchange. I choose to change the quality of this karmic account. No more hatred and pain, its only understanding. I understand they are hurt and my love and understanding will help them heal themselves.

XXIX

• We have had a lot of relationships in the past. In some of them we have created pain. But today I choose a different way of thinking, I choose to break the old pattern and to heal my wounds. I do not need respect from anyone. Respect is the energy I create and send out. Because I am a pure being, complete and I accept myself as I am. All the pain that was created in the past was my lack of awareness about my own self and I used their words to hurt myself. Today I understand they were not aware of what they were sending me. But now I am aware of what I create and send out to those around me.

XXX

• Number of expectations from everyone around me. I wanted them to be and do what I think is right. I always wanted the world to be according to my control. A new way of thinking, I can choose what I think is right but I also choose to accept the result irrespective. I expect and empower them but remain stable if my expectations are not fulfilled. My expectation are for empowering them not pressurising them, irrespective of what they do and how they behave. My respect remains constant, unconditional. Because I respect the soul, I may not approve of the act, the words, but my respect for the soul, remains constant.

XXXI

• I the being, conscient energy. I am a love-ful being. Love that feeling for which I was searching outside. Stimulants, people, objects, I searched everywhere. This is me. I am love. I am complete. As I experience this, I understand that its my property that I transmit to people around me. Its a feeling which I transmit to souls around me. Its not something which I want, ask for or dependent on. Its my natural Sanskar and I can create this in the presence of everyone. Because this is who I am. As I know myself, I send vibrations of love to all the souls in relationships around me. I send vibrations of love to souls all over the world. Because I the soul, I am in connection through the energy of love.

XXXIV

• Look at our journey. My values, my principles, and my journey in life - this is my choice. My truth and my power of conviction gives me the strength to walk my path. Souls around me could be sending me all kinds of energy but I am sure of the road I have taken. At the same time, I understand what they are going through. I understand they are in pain and I empathise with them. I understand they need healing and they are doing what they are doing only because they have forgotten who they are. I send them vibrations of love and power. I am protected by my own truth and purity. Try and visualize a shield of white light all around me, nothing can permeate this, I don't absorb energies which are around me, I radiate energy to them.

~~ Om Shanthi ~~

Source: Brahma Kumaris
E-mail: awakening@bkmail.org